Can dads get postnatal depression or anxiety? Expand Yes. Around 1 in 10 dads experience postnatal depression, and many more experience anxiety in the perinatal period. This is often linked to lack of sleep, stress, financial pressure, or feeling left out. It doesn’t mean you’re failing - it means you’re human, and support is available. Talking to your GP, health visitor, or a support service can really help.
Can I access support even if things are “okay”? Expand Yes! Services aren’t just for crises. Accessing support early can give you reassurance, practical tools, and confidence. You don’t have to wait until things feel overwhelming - prevention and learning are just as important as getting help in tough times.
Do I have to pay for Dad Matters support? Expand No. Dad Matters is a free service for dads and families. We’re part of Home-Start, a charity that’s been supporting families for over 50 years.
Do I need a referral to access support? Expand Not usually. Many services, like Home-Start or Dad Matters, welcome self-referrals as well as from professionals. Some NHS services may ask for a GP referral, but you can always check first. If you’re unsure, try the Hub of Hope directory to see what’s available near you.
How can I contact Dad Matters? Expand You can get in touch through our contact page, or connect with your local Dad Matters coordinator if there’s one in your area - check our map. Follow us on social media - Facebook, Instagram and Tiktok.
Is Dad Matters available everywhere? Expand Not yet. Dad Matters started in Greater Manchester in 2017 and has since grown to 20+ Home-Start charities across the UK. If we’re not in your area yet, you can still use our online resources and connect with us for advice.
Is it normal to feel detached from my baby? Expand Yes. Not all dads feel a bond straight away, and that’s okay. Bonding can take time, especially if your baby spent time in NICU, if the birth was difficult, or if you’re under stress. Focus on small, everyday interactions - holding, talking, singing, or gentle play. If detachment continues, reach out for support. Bonding is a process, not a test.
What if my partner is also struggling and I don’t want to burden them? Expand It’s natural to want to protect your partner, but keeping your feelings inside can increase stress for both of you. Sharing how you feel often helps your partner feel less alone too. If you’d rather, talk to a trusted friend, family member, or professional first. Looking after yourself is also a way of looking after your partner and baby.
What is Dad Matters? Expand Dad Matters is a locally-led service, powered by Home-Start, that helps dads build strong relationships with their babies. We focus on supporting dads’ mental health, promoting secure attachment and bonding, and helping you access the right services.
What’s the difference between midwives and health visitors? Expand Midwives focus on pregnancy, birth, and the first few weeks after your baby is born. They’re there to support your partner, answer your questions about birth, and help with early baby care. Health visitors step in after your midwife care ends and continue to support your family as your baby grows. They’ll check in on your baby’s development, feeding, sleep, and your family’s wellbeing. Both are there for dads too - so don’t hesitate to reach out with questions or concerns.
Who can I talk to if I’m worried about my mental health? Expand Start with someone you trust - your partner, a family member, or a friend. You can also speak with your GP, health visitor, or midwife. If it feels easier, reach out to confidential helplines such as Samaritans (116 123) or CALM (0800 58 58 58). Dad-focused groups like Mentell, Directions for Men, or the Hub of Hope directory are also great places to start.
Will people judge me if I get support? Expand Absolutely not. Support services exist to help you, not to judge you. Many dads feel nervous at first, but these services are confidential and designed specifically for fathers and families. Asking for help is a sign of strength.